Bridesmaid Drops Out of Destination Wedding But Wants to Keep Comped Flight and Hotel for Vacation with Boyfriend

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A bridesmaid explained on Reddit that she asked her friend to remove her from her wedding party after a clash between her and the groom’s sister occurred at the bachelorette party

The groom's sister accused her of stealing her earrings and made "digs" at her throughout the trip, and the bride did nothing about it

Now, the bridesmaid is considering still using her destination wedding flights and hotel room, paid for by the bride and groom, for a vacation with her boyfriend instead

A bridesmaid is considering dropping out of a wedding, but keeping the flights and hotel already booked for the destination event.

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The 27-year-old woman shared in a post on Reddit’s popular "Am I The A------" forum that she asked her 28-year-old friend, Ava, who is getting married, to remove her from the wedding party after an issue occurred between her and the groom’s sister, Mia.

The Redditor noted that she and five other girls were asked to be bridesmaids, and the groom-to-be asked if the bride would include his sister in the wedding party. The bride agreed and the six of them “went on a bachelorette holiday together,” where things took a turn for the worse.

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Destination wedding (stock photo)

During the vacation, the woman shared that the groom’s sister "accused" her of “taking her earrings” as she had been the “last one to head out of the apartment after going to the bathroom at the other end of the Airbnb.” Throughout the trip, the Redditor noted that Mia continued to make “digs” at her, despite her trying to explain the situation.

The groom’s sister eventually found the earrings, but did not “apologize” for her attitude toward her during the trip. The Redditor was even more upset by the way the bride responded to the situation.

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“I was super upset that Ava didn't say anything to Mia, but told me that she believed me, and Ava's other friends were on my side,” she wrote. “After the trip, I sent Ava a message saying I was super upset she didn't stand up for me or say anything after Mia had found her earrings.”

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The woman said the bride didn’t respond to her message, prompting her to tell her that she was “going to drop out of the bridal party.” The bride then replied that her “dropping out would make the groomsmen an odd number and that it's too close to the wedding to make a drastic change.”

The Redditor noted that the bride and groom had already "covered flights and a hotel” for her to attend their destination wedding. Plus, her boyfriend already “bought his ticket." So, her boyfriend suggested that instead of attending the wedding, they “make it a holiday” for just the two of them, especially since they had “already taken the time off work and can't change it.”

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Bride on her cellphone (stock photo)

Several Reddit users called the woman out in the comments section, arguing it would be a terrible idea for her to use her friend’s tickets in this way. One person called it “taking advantage” of her friend’s generosity.

Another person responded, “You want to punish your friend over a misunderstanding with the groom's sister, and she's paying for you to be there? You sound like a lousy friend.”

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“You're literally planning on stealing from your ‘friend.’ She bought your flights and hotel so you could attend her wedding, not f--- around with your boyfriend,” read another comment.

Other people said that the bridesmaid would be wrong to drop out at the last minute over the situation, as it had nothing to do with her friend, the bride. One person commented, "Your problem should solely be with [the groom’s sister], not with [the bride].”

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